Custody Evaluations – 5 Tips For Presenting Your Case Successfully

Custody, or parenting time evaluations, are frequently performed by a forensic psychologist at a separation or a divorce between two people, when there is some question as to the fitness of one of both parents to fully parent the child or children. One common scenario is a parent being concerned about the drug or alcohol use of the other parent. These evaluations are invasive and often difficult, but they are typically fairly solid in court and if you have legitimate concerns, they can be a way to help secure your children’s security and safety. The results and recommendations of the evaluation can be written in to court documents, providing further foundation for enforcing certain rules and restrictions that can help keep your children safe when they are with the other parent, or should the problems and concerns be severe enough, they may provide basis for keeping the children away from an unsafe parent altogether. Here are 5 tips for presenting your case for custody to an evaluator:

1. Present facts, not opinions to the evaluator during interviews. This means avoiding “diagnosing” your partner or making too many interpretations of behavior. Stick as much as possible to the facts — the who, what, when and where of the behavior you are concerned about.

2. Try not to get over emotional. This is a traumatic time and being upset is expected – however if you are crying throughout every meeting, the evaluator may begin to question your emotional stability. Feel free to express hurt, but keep your mind firmly focused on your children and their well being and best interests.

3. Present your facts and information framed in reference to the impact on the children. While you avoid diagnosing or giving too many opinions, you can express what concerns you about the behavior in reference to the negative impact on your kids. For example, if your partner has a drug problem, you can express concern over impairment while caring for kids, the kids finding drug paraphernalia, and the legal ramifications should your partner be caught.

4. Be honest about your own shortcomings. If you omit any wrongdoing on your part, surely your partner will be eager to fill in the gaps. When you do present your mistakes, again frame them in reference to impact on the children and demonstrate your understanding of why the activity was harmful or potentially harmful to your kids. For example if you had an affair, explain that this injected a note of chaos and disharmony into your home life, and you understand that this was a negative impact on your children. And of course, be sure you are not repeating damaging behaviors during your evaluation.

5. Keep records and update the evaluator as new incidents occur. Evaluations can take many months to complete, so be sure to log any new incidents as they occur and inform the evaluator via phone or email.

Are you interested in addressing the challenge of divorce from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, practical, and relationship components?

How SMS API Integration Can Improve Your Business Communications

Communication is the key, be it maintaining a personal connection or growing business relationships. Maintaining seamless communication with customers has become even more important today as the competition is at an all-time high. Therefore, having an SMS API has become more of a necessity. An SMS API allows businesses to integrate SMS gateway into existing business software. With quick messages, you can update the customers in real-time which is important for targeting marketing. There are several other advantages of SMS API Integration that can help you improve your business communications.

1. Higher Visibility and Tracking
An SMS API can considerably enhance visibility in your communication efforts. It does so by facilitating message tracking through real-time delivery receipts. Through on-spot delivery receipts, you can fix any anomaly in case of non-delivery.

It also has a tagging feature that informs your application of a suitable outbound message that befits any given response. This is especially important for transactional messaging applications where you have to streamline ongoing communication response times.

2. Better Efficiency In Operations
SMS APIs enable great efficiency by reducing the need for manual intervention. With the help of SMS API, you can automate text messaging that ensures your communication rolls out as planned. For commercial purposes where you have to send similar messages regularly, an SMS API could be a lifesaver.

It saves you from the monotonous job of mechanically sending these messages to hundreds, sometimes thousands, of recipients. For more time-sensitive messages, you can also schedule the message so that the customers receive the messages at a strategic time that invokes action in them.

3. Fast and Secure Delivery
SMS API ensures a quick and safe distribution of text messages to a large number of people. As the SMS API provides direct access to the SMS gateway, you can get the advantage of direct access to enhanced speed and security.

A good SMS API provider, such as mTalkz in India, allows you to have a very secure and reliable connection between your system and the service provider. It does so by ensuring that your messages are sent over a secured internet connection.

4. Better Focus on Other Tasks
One of the most important yet the least talked about advantages of SMS API is that it saves a lot of time and energy. When the marketing department is relieved of the monotonous task of sending bulk messages daily, they are in a better position to devise new and more effective marketing strategies.

The time and energy saved from messaging can be invested in other important marketing activities. In addition to that, automation of SMS reduces the chance of error which could prove to be very detrimental for the goodwill of the organization.

5. Integration with Business System
The SMS API works across your business applications and platforms. It integrates the business functions by enabling you to manage your messages from a single interface. This unified experience provides a more integrated and cohesive communication that eliminates the chances of error or miscommunication.

This ease of integration is very fruitful for ensuring seamless communication with the customers. This is because the single interface of an Bulk SMS API is very user-centric. It puts everything in one place so that you can easily access all the important information without going back and forth on different apps. It also gives you a clear picture of the impact that your communication strategies are leaving on the business’s goodwill and profits.

Hence, we see that although new communication technologies are emerging every year, SMS still enjoys the reputation of being the most easily accessible channel to connect with present and potential customers. Therefore, as a business owner, you should prudently invest in a competent SMS API service provided by a renowned mobility service provider.

Why Be Pre-Occupied? “Just Being Present” – Part 2

Being in the lion’s pit of life is interesting at times, isn’t it? This is real tongue-in-cheek stuff. One day or even one afternoon can present so many opportunities to become waylaid with worries, fears and anxieties… enough to last the rest of the day, and into the next, easy!

But, this is where control over the mind and our mental processes can come to our rescue.

Recently, I had the privilege of reading an extraordinary piece of wisdom titled, “Practicing awareness in everyday life.”[1] It’s all about the subject of awareness; the skill of staying in the present. The author says it’s the most important skill that we could acquire.

The issue is about how much of our awake time we spend partially or completely distracted from our present activities, because we’re focused on the past or future–”neither of which exist.”

As we experience life, there are so many things that have just gone or are about to hit us that consume our ordinary thinking. This leaves us drained of the attention we could place in the present. No wonder we struggle to listen to people properly half the time.

This subject is all about staying ‘in the truth.’ It’s about sticking with our senses and what they tell us to feel, in the moment. We’re told to focus, particularly around decision-making, on what we’re actually thinking, feeling, saying and doing–that is, we need to be intimately aware of ourselves.

Even simple tasks such as brushing our teeth should require all our ‘manual’ attention. The objective here is to train the mind to think manually, and resist our preponderance to go into mental autopilot. We should “practise awareness until we can operate ‘automatically on manual’, so we can choose to ‘manually go to automatic’.”

What this means is once we’re trained to be aware at will, we then have the ability to become more competent over our attitudes; we become ‘attitudinally competent.’ We can then screen out the unhelpful emotional distractions, scheduling our focus on these for times when we wish to deliberately reflect on the past and plan for the future. We effectively hold the moment (emotionally) and deal with it at a predetermined time later.

We should become adept at being a silent observer of ourselves, being attuned to our thoughts, feelings, words and actions. There is no more basic a goal for a person to have than to become self-aware, and that continually so.

We must resist allowing our minds to wander and meander in undisciplined ways; sure, when we watch a movie and want to relax, a free mind is fine; but truly, do we think an unfocused mind dribbling through the immediate past or near future is helpful? It can’t possibly be and “running of ‘old part-fiction movies’ is insanity.”

Reflection and planning must be restricted to “fully truthful” aspects. We need to determine what truth there is, sifting out the innuendo and assumptions.

So, let’s get to work on not being pre-occupied mentally and simply stay in the moment practicing awareness. Even during so-called stressful times, we’ll benefit from the fresh perspective and strength that comes as a result.