Custody Evaluations – 5 Tips For Presenting Your Case Successfully

Custody, or parenting time evaluations, are frequently performed by a forensic psychologist at a separation or a divorce between two people, when there is some question as to the fitness of one of both parents to fully parent the child or children. One common scenario is a parent being concerned about the drug or alcohol use of the other parent. These evaluations are invasive and often difficult, but they are typically fairly solid in court and if you have legitimate concerns, they can be a way to help secure your children’s security and safety. The results and recommendations of the evaluation can be written in to court documents, providing further foundation for enforcing certain rules and restrictions that can help keep your children safe when they are with the other parent, or should the problems and concerns be severe enough, they may provide basis for keeping the children away from an unsafe parent altogether. Here are 5 tips for presenting your case for custody to an evaluator:

1. Present facts, not opinions to the evaluator during interviews. This means avoiding “diagnosing” your partner or making too many interpretations of behavior. Stick as much as possible to the facts — the who, what, when and where of the behavior you are concerned about.

2. Try not to get over emotional. This is a traumatic time and being upset is expected – however if you are crying throughout every meeting, the evaluator may begin to question your emotional stability. Feel free to express hurt, but keep your mind firmly focused on your children and their well being and best interests.

3. Present your facts and information framed in reference to the impact on the children. While you avoid diagnosing or giving too many opinions, you can express what concerns you about the behavior in reference to the negative impact on your kids. For example, if your partner has a drug problem, you can express concern over impairment while caring for kids, the kids finding drug paraphernalia, and the legal ramifications should your partner be caught.

4. Be honest about your own shortcomings. If you omit any wrongdoing on your part, surely your partner will be eager to fill in the gaps. When you do present your mistakes, again frame them in reference to impact on the children and demonstrate your understanding of why the activity was harmful or potentially harmful to your kids. For example if you had an affair, explain that this injected a note of chaos and disharmony into your home life, and you understand that this was a negative impact on your children. And of course, be sure you are not repeating damaging behaviors during your evaluation.

5. Keep records and update the evaluator as new incidents occur. Evaluations can take many months to complete, so be sure to log any new incidents as they occur and inform the evaluator via phone or email.

Are you interested in addressing the challenge of divorce from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, practical, and relationship components?

Telesales – How to Write a Cold Call Pitch Or Presentation

Writing any type of sales presentation is an art form in itself. But a cold call presentation is more difficult because you only have a very short period of time to make an impact. It’s essential that you follow a set structure in order for your sales pitch to flow like a good novel. Let me expand in this analogy; imagine buying a book that turned you off or bored you senseless within the first few pages. It’s more than likely you would stop reading it and move onto something more interesting instead. That is how a lot of companies cold call pitches are received by a vast majority of the population.

I am only going to talk about the introduction in this article, i.e. the first 30 seconds. To write about the entire process creates a very long article indeed.

3 very important things that you need to employ when writing the introduction to a cold call pitch are what I call the ’3 Biggies’.

The 3 Biggies are:

1. Who you are?
2. Why you’re calling?
3. What’s in it for them?

If you do not cover these three points in your opening gambit you stand a good chance of crashing your presentation within the first 15 seconds, this is something that I call the ‘Hello Burn’ and I will talk about that another time.

The process is simple. This is who I am and I work for this company. This is just a quick call to talk about this, and for your time I want to give you this. Voila.

Two basic examples of a simple introduction are below. I have written one for a small one man band gardening firm and one for a blue chip pension supplier. Both companies are fictitious but the idea is to show you that this straightforward process can work for a One Man Band or a Blue Chip company. Have a look at the two examples.

(Arrows indicate the upward or downward inflection of voice)

A one man band gardener.

“Good Morning/Afternoon, my name is … calling from Twigs n Tings. I know that you must be rather busy so I will only take a few moments of your time. I am a local gardener who specialises in working with gardens up to 1 acre in size. I am in the process of expanding my current client list and I would be delighted to offer you a free 1 hr consultation worth (Include your hourly rate + VAT). 9 times out of 10 I can guarantee not only improve the look of your garden, but also give you phenomenal value for money. All I need to do is just take a few minutes of your time to ask a few basic questions; is that OK? ”

A large multi national pension provider

“Good morning/afternoon, my name is … From ABC Pensions, the largest pension provider in the UK. This is just a very brief call to let you know that over the next few weeks a consultant from our area will be offering individuals the opportunity to review their current pension and see how it is actually performing in the current financial climate. This free service is comes with no obligation and may just reveal an opportunity for you to safeguard your pension. Can I just take a few moments of your time to see there is anything that we can do for you? ”

As you can see from the 2 examples above there are two very different types of client that both follow the same simple 3 Biggies rule. One important factor to take into account is to remember that this is a cold call and that you have invaded the prospects privacy. Do not just assume that because the opening paragraph that you use sounds good to you, that it will have the same appealing factors for your prospect. This is why I always recommend that you ask the client if you can take a few further moments of their time.

There are numerous reasons for this question. First of all you can ascertain if the client is at all receptive to your call and secondly you need to be able to move into the fact finding section of your presentation. Unless you already know that the prospect is right for the product or service that you supply, you must go forward and at least ask a few qualifying questions otherwise you will simply be wasting your own phone bill and paperwork, and of course the time of your potential prospect.

Valentine’s Gifts for Him: Presents for Every Stage of a Relationship

February 14th is a difficult occasion when it comes to picking Valentines gifts for men. What you buy your man reflects how you see him and the relationship, so you want to opt for something imaginative, original, thoughtful and appropriate for the amount of time you’ve been together.

In all honesty, guys are less fussed about Valentine’s Day gift-giving and receiving etiquette than their female counterparts. This doesn’t mean the Valentines presents for men protocol is completely out of the question, though. After all, they’ve been great all year at keeping you happy and content, so why not treat them to something nice to show you reckon they’re ace?

Here are some Valentines gift ideas for him, fitting for whatever stage your relationship’s at…

The Growing Romance

By all means, it’s okay to take the uber proverbial route with a guy you’re just getting to know. A bottle of wine or box of choccies make great Valentines Day gifts for men(if he’s the sweet-loving type) – a timeless way to let a man know you’re into him.

Alternatively, you could treat your gorgeous guy to a dinner date. Just let him choose the restaurant. Obviously, most folks go out for dinner on February 14th, but a romantic meal out is a sure-fire way to kick off conversation and enable you to get to know more about the said man.

How about creating some homemade treats? You don’t have to know him deeply to whip up some biscuits or cakes. Moreover, you’re guaranteed to earn a few brownie points for giving him such a thoughtful, personal pressie.

Going Steady

So, you’re at the next level of your relationship. Now you want to find Valentines gifts for him that show your hubby or boyfriend how well you know them – using all that stored data from those initial dinner dates. Smiley face. Go for a book by his favourite author, a CD from a band he loves or if he’s the sporty type, get him tickets to see his favourite team play.

Know some of his close friends? Ask them for hints and suggestions. As long as they like you, they’re guaranteed to help you find some lasting Valentines Day gifts for him that makes you golden in your hubby or boyfriend’s eyes.

Together for donkey’s years

Consider a romantic getaway. Spend the night in the capital or arrange for a sensual night at a swanky hotel. If you can swing it, organise a weekend retreat.

The long and short of it is that by now, both of you know each other well enough to tone the emotion down. By this stage of the relationship, the message should be one of unconditional, lasting love.