Change Your Story, Change Your Life, and Maybe Even Get Present in the Moment

Do you want to change your life for the better? Do you want to achieve real and lasting growth, move to a new level, and maybe even be happier? You can, and it’s easier than you think, but it does require consciousness and awareness. Bust out some pen and paper, and get ready to change your world!

To change your life, change your story. What is your story as of right now? Hint: your story is the stuff you tell yourself that is not necessarily true but has a serious effect on what your life looks like. Examples of a story are, “I’m not pretty, thin, or funny enough”, “I will never have enough money”, or “nobody likes me”. You get the picture, so insert your own story here. It’s usually something that is repeated endlessly to anyone who is willing to listen. Now, realize that this is all made up! None of it is true, unless you make it true.

You create your own reality. You are in charge of your story, so why not tell a story that makes you feel good instead of one that makes you feel bad? Why are you choosing to feel bad? (Don’t worry, you probably just did not know any better, no big deal!) Are you willing to let your old story go? If not, why? What are you afraid of? Trust yourself- there is nothing to fear, and you would not be reading this if you weren’t ready to let it go.

Starting today, begin telling a new, happy, successful and uplifting story! On your paper, write down your new, fabulous story. Whatever you want out of life should be in this new version. Now tell this story to people. Don’t ever tell that old story again! That old story is keeping you stuck and re-creating old drama over and over- you won’t change your life if you are attached to your old story. Begin discussing your successes instead of your failures, your health instead of your pains, and your abundance instead of your bills.

Where attention goes, energy flows and results show. What are you focusing on in your story? Is it what you want? I truly hope so, because what you focus on is what you get! Repeat the process of writing out and focusing on your new story as often as needed. (I do it several times a week- it feels great and keeps me focused on what I intend to create.)

Watch out for little stories in your day to day life. In addition to your big life story, there are little stories that pop up all day long. Pay attention to how you react to your life and you will see what I mean. An example: Someone doesn’t smile back at you, so you think “they don’t like me”. This is a total story- stop torturing yourself! You have no idea why that person did not smile at you. Maybe they did not see you, or they have a toothache, or they did not get much sleep. Maybe they were born without smiling muscles. Who knows? Why make yourself feel bad over it? Pay attention- respond with awareness instead of reacting.

Stay present in the moment to avoid the “story”. This takes awareness. If someone cuts you off on the road, don’t assume they are a jerk. That’s a story. There are any number of reasons why that happened, and let’s be honest, who hasn’t cut someone off at some point or another? If you can be conscious of your thoughts and stay present you can catch yourself in a story and let it go.

If you are having trouble staying present, focus on how you feel. We don’t feel enough in this world. Let’s practice getting out of our heads and into our bodies a little more. Our stories can make us feel really bad, but usually we are so far into our thoughts that we can’t realize this. If you get back into the body and focus on how you are feeling you can free yourself from the mind’s chatter. Take a few deep breaths and feel your emotions. If you are reacting in anger to someone, fine! Feel it, and let it go. Don’t use the story as an excuse to feel the same emotion over and over and over. That’s wasted energy- that’s where the story gets you stuck. Search for the truth- when you feel an emotion fully in your body and not in your mind, the truth will come to you more easily.

Feel emotions in your body, instead of thinking about them over and over. (I repeated what I just said in the above paragraph because it is really, really important!) When you feel your emotions fully in your body, they usually disappear very quickly. Accept how you feel instead of rejecting it. The story actually helps you reject your emotions. “I’m angry because that person is a jerk. How dare that person treat me that way?” In this story, your mind is saying, “I am feeling angry and I don’t like it- this person acted in a way that is making me feel emotions I don’t like.” Instead, get over the story and feel the anger! Then let it go. You can really change your life by learning to release emotions when they come up. Stuck emotions create stuck lives.

We are all creators. We are creating our lives in every moment. Tell a story that serves you instead of hinders you. Tell a story that creates a future that you can smile about. Live in a way that creates peace, joy and abundance. You are in charge of your story, and the story you tell will show up in your future. What’s your new story? Change your story and change your life!

Be relentless in your pursuit for the truth – the truth as your Higher Self sees it. Release your negative stories and live in your heart. You will be free- free to be abundant, free to be peaceful, and free to expand into higher levels of consciousness and joy.